Did you ever ask yourself this question? Are you living the life that you thought you would be living? If not, why not? Are you living your life for your spouse or partner? Are you living your life for your children? Are you living your life based on the expectations that others have set for you? Are you happy?
Happiness is relative. Each person’s definition of happiness is different and what makes one person happy may not make another person happy. This is even more reason to start living a life that you want and makes you happy. No one knows what makes you happy except you and it is no one else’s job, except yours, to make you happy. Happiness comes from within. It comes from your perspective and how you see the world around you. Happiness is a choice. It is up to you to decide how you will view each day, each event, each activity in your own life. Will you allow yourself to be brought down by the world around you or will you choose to be uplifted by the world and all the amazing things it has to offer?
Happiness, in my opinion, comes down to one thing, a sense of meaning. If you believe that you, your life, your choices, your actions, your thoughts, your words, your feelings, your emotions, etc. have meaning, then you will be filled with happiness. Having meaning in your life is having a purpose. It is having a reason for being here and being an active participant in the game of life. I believe that so many of us loose happiness or don’t find happiness because we see ourselves getting lost in a life we did not choose, allowing the stresses and unnecessary expectations of work, relationships, money, etc. blanket us and at times make us feel like we are drowning, making us feel that we don’t matter, that we are too small to make a difference, that we don’t have what it takes to matter or that we don’t deserve to be happy. Everyone deserves to be happy. Everyone has what it takes to be happy, but like most things in life worth having, you have to work for happiness. Happiness is not just something you can wish for and it will happen.
Achieving happiness is possible for everyone, you just have to want it in your life enough to want to make the changes in order to obtain it. It is very easy to think negatively about life. It is work to see the best in situations, in people, in actions, etc. One of the simplest ways to change your perspective on life is to change your vocabulary. For example instead of saying “I have to go grocery shopping.” You can say “I get to go grocery shopping.” This may sound a little crazy that one word can change your view on an activity but I dare you to try it out. When you change the word of have to get to you are saying to yourself that you are fortunate enough to participate in that said activity. Having to do something makes you feel forced into doing something you don’t want to do. I don’t know about you, but I don’t like doing things that I am forced to do.
Another step towards achieving happiness is determining what happiness looks like to you and not what it looks like to others. As the post from two weeks ago stated “don’t compare your insides with someone else’s outsides.” Happiness is about having meaning in your life and having a life of meaning. Having a life of meaning does not involve a dress size, a hair color, car, jewelry, relationship status, etc. Happiness comes and shines from within. The great thing about happiness coming from within, is that no one can take it away from you. Happiness is not someone’s gift to give or take. Happiness is a sense of being.
What does your happiness look like? My happiness is being able to say at the end of the journey “I lived.” Happiness is about experiencing all that life has to offer, taking advantage of opportunities, putting yourself out there and not knowing the end result even though it is scary. Happiness is about love and being loved. It is about sharing experiences, ideas, thoughts and emotions. Happiness is doing what you were put on this earth to do and touching the lives of those around you. Happiness is sharing in an embrace with a loved on, a shared look between lovers, a laugh with good friends. Notice that none of those things cost money and can be obtained by anyone.
I encourage you to choose to be happy. Life is too short not to be happy and too long to be miserable. When given the option, always chose happiness. Life is about experiences and people, that’s it. Nothing more and nothing less. Make the most out of what you were given and take control of what you do in regards to those two things. Live a life where you are surrounded by people and experiences that only increase your happiness. Start living a life you want, a life you deserve and a life that makes you happy. Living a life of happiness only attracts more happiness. What do you have to lose by choosing to be happy? What do you have to gain?