Why are we so reluctant to ask for help? Why do we not mind helping others but we would rather drown then to raise our hands and/or our voices to ask for help? Is it the fear of appearing that we can’t do it all? It is the fear of appearing weak? It is the fear of seeming incompetent? Is it the fear of showing the world what we are really dealing with? Is it the fear of showing that we are not perfect? Is it the fear of rejection if we do ask for help? I think it is a mixture of all of these, but I think the biggest reason is fear, fear of being vulnerable. By asking for help we are admitting that we can’t do it all, that we are not perfect, and we are not able to do it all. There is shame attached to this and showing that shame makes us feel vulnerable and for most, feeling vulnerable feels awful. But what if I told you that vulnerability could and will feel great? Would you believe me?
Vulnerability is showing the world who you really are, what you are capable of, and that you have imperfections. Vulnerability is living your truth. Living your truth is living a life not ruled by fear; fear of judgment, fear of rejection, fear of not being accepted. And most important, living your truth breeds connection. When you show the world who you really are, people are attracted to that. Humans crave connection. The reason some of us, if not all of us, are starving for this connection is because we are so afraid to show the world who we are because we fear judgment and rejection and therefore don’t have the connection we need. But what we don’t realize is that the very thing we are most afraid of, being vulnerable, is the same thing that brings us what we need to become more comfortable in the vulnerability. Fear is not something that you can just wash away, but it is something that you can acknowledge and use to thrust you forward into a world that is scary. Know that everyone fears being vulnerable for the very same reasons you fear it.
My challenge for you this week is to start living your truth. Stop hiding behind the falseness of perfection and start living in truth. None of us are perfect and we all need help to make it through this life. No one has ever become successful or happy by being alone and doing everything on their on. The sooner you realize this the sooner you will feel the connection you so crave. You will stop feeling alone, you will stop living in fear, and you will start doing amazing things.